I have no knowledge of the reverse situation of a woman wanting to be spanked, but professional women do spank Ladies also. There is a plenitude of woman spankers offering their services, as opposed to men offering their services. http://www.misssarahgregory.com/
I am, in no way, endorsing or not endorsing the quality of the service she offers, but I am very pleased to see a photo of a woman clearly enjoying giving a spanking to a man.
Perhaps, you might comment about your experience, if you have visited a professional, and how it compares to any other spankings you have had in your life.